I wouldn't have chosen to be born, if I knew the struggles and temptations I would be facing



I'm writing in response to the question sent in in regards to choices. I was a little confused by the response:

"Nor can you claim that life is unfair because you now decide that you don't what to live by your choices. It is the same as the child who refuses to help in a family while yelling, "I didn't ask to be born!" (See "I Didn't Ask to be Born!"). You exist because God gave you life. What you do with it is up to you. To complain that you don't like your existence is a lack of appreciation and an attitude that life should revolve completely around you."

I agree. I feel as if I wouldn't have chosen to be born knowing the struggle and temptations that exist. I would have opted out, so having said that please help me to understand when I had a choice and why I'm being judged so harshly for being human.

Very respectfully. I just want answers. Thanks.


Since you did not exist prior to conception, the idea that you could have a choice about being born is not feasible. No human had a choice about existing.

"Woe to the one who quarrels with his Maker -- An earthenware vessel among the vessels of earth! Will the clay say to the potter, 'What are you doing?' Or the thing you are making say, 'He has no hands'? Woe to him who says to a father, 'What are you begetting?' Or to a woman, 'To what are you giving birth?' Thus says the LORD, the Holy One of Israel, and his Maker: Ask Me about the things to come concerning My sons, and you shall commit to Me the work of My hands. It is I who made the earth, and created man upon it. I stretched out the heavens with My hands and I ordained all their host" (Isaiah 45:9-12).

"But now, O LORD, You are our Father, we are the clay, and You our potter; and all of us are the work of Your hand" (Isaiah 64:8).

Arguing that you don't want to be here is a waste of breath. You are here. Your choices revolve around what you do with your life. You either serve the God who gave you life or you serve yourself. Each choice has a consequence.

You have the same life that every other human has. Those lives have different variations of circumstances, but every one of us face struggles and temptations of various sorts. Why do you see yourself as someone special?

Thanks for the reply.

I definitely do not see myself as someone special, I just want to understand, and I have done lots of my own diligence in trying to find answers. If I had a choice, I would not want to struggle as I do in such a horrible world. I want to work but not as a slave. I am not asking to be rich but merely to survive. I understand life is filled with challenges. I just wish I wasn't subject to them.

Thanks. I'm only in search of clarity.

"You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin. And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons: "My son, do not despise the chastening of the LORD, Nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him; For whom the LORD loves He chastens, And scourges every son whom He receives." If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten? But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons. Furthermore, we have had human fathers who corrected us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much more readily be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live? For they indeed for a few days chastened us as seemed best to them, but He for our profit, that we may be partakers of His holiness. Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. Therefore strengthen the hands which hang down, and the feeble knees, and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be dislocated, but rather be healed. Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord" (Hebrews 12:4-14).