"Sexuality is more than physical action."



Sexuality means much more than physical arousal and orgasm. Attached to a person's sexuality is the capacity to feel affection, to delight in someone else, to get emotionally close to another person, and to be passionately committed to him or her. Sexuality is central to that marvelous human experience, being in love—to be struck by the beauty of another person and be drawn out of yourself, to become attached to another so powerfully that you easily begin measuring your life in terms of what's good for someone else and not just for yourself.

To have to be afraid to feel sexual is to restrain that noblest of human possibilities, love. It is to short-circuit human spontaneity in a whole array of expressions—creativity, motivation, passion, commitment, heroic achievement. It is to be afraid of part of ones own deepest self.

Judge not, lest ye be judged.


And from this, how do you conclude that sex is then allowed outside the bounds of a committed marriage relationship (which is what I must conclude is the point of your note)? "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge" (Hebrews 13:4). How is it noble to use another person to satisfy your basic need and in the process build some bounds while refusing to tie yourself to that person?

Hunger is a basic human need, but we do no conclude that eating without boundaries is good for the human body. Nor is it logical to conclude that since sexual relations is a God given desire that is important to humans that it to can be engaged in without boundaries. "And why not say, "Let us do evil that good may come"? --as we are slanderously reported and as some affirm that we say. Their condemnation is just" (Romans 3:8).

By the way, the actual quote is:

"Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? "Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me remove the speck from your eye'; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye" (Matthew 7:1-5).

In context, its meaning is different than how you were attempting to apply it.

"There is a principle which is bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance -- that principal is contempt prior to investigation". 

The interpretation seems to be convenient, it allows a choice of whom it applies to. If every person condemned to hell/death, comes true; heaven will be a very lonely place. Conditional love of our fellow man isn't at all what God teaches.

The word of God isn't supposed to be used as a weapon. Some day an original thought may sneak in, and then you can have an honest opinion. I'm glad my faith doesn't promote itself in an email address, as I see how it only hurts yours.

"I marvel that you are turning away so soon from Him who called you in the grace of Christ, to a different gospel, which is not another; but there are some who trouble you and want to pervert the gospel of Christ. But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be accursed. As we have said before, so now I say again, if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than what you have received, let him be accursed. For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bondservant of Christ" (Galatians 1:6-10).

"Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. For I have come to 'set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law'; and 'a man's enemies will be those of his own household'" (Matthew 10:34-36).

"For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled" (II Corinthians 10:3-6).

"And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God" (Ephesians 6:17).

"If anyone speaks, let him speak as the oracles of God. If anyone ministers, let him do it as with the ability which God supplies, that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom belong the glory and the dominion forever and ever. Amen" (I Peter 4:11).