Do I tell my boyfriend that I had a one-night stand?


Hello. Well, first of all I came across your site by asking the question: "By not telling my boyfriend about a one night stand am I sinning even though I have cried and prayed to God to ask for forgiveness?"

I have been living with my boyfriend for several years and we have been together a few years more. Last year I made the terrible mistake of cheating on him because we were having many problems in our relationship. Now we are back together working on our relationship and things are going much better. I tell myself every day: "How could I have made that dumb decision to do that?" I also was under the influence of alcohol when I committed the sin. I love my boyfriend so much and realize what a mistake I had done and know that from this point on, even when we both make a vow to God to be married, that I will never do anything like this as long as we both shall be together. I just need to know if I am forgiven? And if I should tell him knowing what the consequences might be. I am Christian by the way.


A Christian follows Christ. You might call yourself a Christian, but you certainly are not following the Lord. Acting as you have been, you are giving the Lord and all true Christians a bad name. Face the facts:

  • You are committing fornication with a man, have been for several years, and plan to continue to do so.
  • You get drunk.

It is sad that while committing sexual sins with one man you are worried about the fact that you committed sexual sins with another man. "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God" (I Corinthians 6:9-10).

It is long past time that you get out of the world and live as a Christian ought. "Therefore, since Christ suffered for us in the flesh, arm yourselves also with the same mind, for he who has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin, that he no longer should live the rest of his time in the flesh for the lusts of men, but for the will of God. For we have spent enough of our past lifetime in doing the will of the Gentiles -- when we walked in lewdness, lusts, drunkenness, revelries, drinking parties, and abominable idolatries. In regard to these, they think it strange that you do not run with them in the same flood of dissipation, speaking evil of you. They will give an account to Him who is ready to judge the living and the dead" (I Peter 4:1-5).