What do I do about my family? Some are so deep into sin, I don't know how to handle it.


I am writing today in regards to something I am finding  extremely difficult to think about, or even to accept, especially in living a Christian life. In the recent past, one of my goals was to try to re-connect with my family. I come from a very difficult and hard life. For my own health in all ways, I resisted being around my family due to all the issues. But I thought maybe I should try again, and help where I can, if I can.  

So, I signed up on one of these social networks where my family writes a lot. I found out that the issues from the past are still very much present, and even escalated to a great degree. One nephew is openly homosexual and discusses it online, another is in the military but cusses and drinks to the degree of being completely obnoxious, drinking is discussed daily, getting tattoos, witchcraft games, military games, etc. You get the idea.

But one issue in particular really bothers me a lot. A niece is a surrogate mother. I recently found out that she has, in the past, sold her eggs, in a medical situation for others to become pregnant. She was paid to do this, and this was one of her sources of income.

I am at a  loss. I cannot get my mind or heart to accept this. I see it as human trafficing, selling babies. I used to write to her, before I knew all this. Once I found this out, I simply could not bring myself to write to her, without saying something about this. As my sister has said not to, I am left with a very bad feeling about all this. This whole thing just makes me cringe, and I can't get it to make any sense. I just don't believe this is right.

If you would please, help me to find a way to think of this. I also am thinking that maybe my family just isn't where I should be. I may stop going to this social web site and just leave this all alone. Which means I would be cutting ties with my family, again.  However, God means more to me, and if I can't help, then maybe it should end.

Would you please advise me in this problem? Thanks so much for listening.


"So He said to them, "Assuredly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or parents or brothers or wife or children, for the sake of the kingdom of God, who shall not receive many times more in this present time, and in the age to come eternal life"" (Luke 18:29-30).

None of us gets to choose our family, yet we develop deep ties to them, despite all their flaws. Yet Christianity gives each person a chance to become a part of a much bigger and much nicer family by choice. I'm glad you care about your relatives, and you should say something when opportunities arise. But they are people of the world, likely they will reject what you say. You can't fix them, but you can warn them. You might even find some who are receptive to the truth. Yet, in terms of time, spend it in profitable areas. There are people all around willing to consider God's ways.

What I've found is that the church is a HUGE family. I always have relatives to see in every state. These are the people I hope to spend eternity with and it is so good to become acquainted with a few now.

I assume you are talking about Facebook. I just recently joined because so many were pushing me to try it. I also made a page for La Vista Church of Christ which I hope to use for posting links to current lessons. So instead of just networking with your physical family, network with your spiritual family.