My fiance and I have been trying to have a baby for a month. Is something wrong?


I have a question: My fiance and I have been trying to conceive a baby since September. I've taken about four home pregnancy tests and all came out negative. I also have irregular periods, Can I still have a baby?


I sincerely hope you don't become pregnant until you are married to a committed man. The very idea of purposely trying to bring a child into this world where his parents aren't even committed enough to each other to marry before having sex is very troublesome.

That you have plans to get married does not change the fact you are committing fornication. Plans change since none of us have control over the future. "Come now, you who say, "Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, spend a year there, buy and sell, and make a profit"; whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away" (James 4:13-14). Life is unstable enough, but you are purposely attempting to bring a child into a relationship that hasn't yet become firm.

But ultimately the problem is fornication. Please take time to read "Why Sex Outside of Marriage is Wrong" and "Waiting for the Proper Time."

Once you do get married, the odds of having a child are as follows: If 100 healthy couples regularly have sex over the course of a year, then by the end of the year 85 of them will have conceived a child. That works out to be that on average most couples take about five months to conceive a child. It doesn't become a cause of concern unless a husband and wife have been trying for over two years and not been able to have a child.