Question:I sex with my wife three days ago, but I didn't wear a condom. I didn't ejaculate inside her, so can there be a possibility of pregnancy?
Whenever you choose to have sex with your wife, there is always a chance of pregnancy. God designed humans so that sex would lead toward having children. The use of condoms or withdrawing before ejaculating are just ways people come up with in an attempt to reduce the odds of a child being conceived. One reason sex is limited to married couples is that if a child is conceived, it isn't the end of the world. You hope to have children when you are married, but sometimes they come at God's timing instead of your own. "Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one's youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; they shall not be ashamed, but shall speak with their enemies in the gate" (Psalms 127:3-5).
The odds of a healthy couple regularly having sex, doing nothing to hinder conception, is 85% in one year. In other words, if a hundred couples were having sex, in a year's time, 85 of the 100 couples would find themselves expecting a child.
When you use condemns, the odds of conceiving a child drops to 14%, or 14 out of 100 couples will find themselves expecting a child after a year of using condoms to prevent conception. It is not zero for a number of reasons:
- Condoms do break. The failure rate in the United States is not supposed to be greater than 7%, but the chance of failure still exists.
- Sometimes there is accidental spillage.
- Sometimes the condom slips off.
- Sometimes, a couple just gets too caught up in the moment and don't take time to put a condom on.
What you did was practice the withdrawal method, where you pull your penis out before you ejaculate. Couples using this method have a 19% chance of conceiving a child in one year. The reasons are:
- Men produce pre-ejaculate fluid when aroused which drips out before ejaculation. This fluid can contain sperm.
- Usually the man ends up missing his timing because he tries to extend the pleasure of sexual intercourse and doesn't manage to withdraw before ejaculating.
- Semen continues to drip from the penis after sex for a time and it is possible for some to end up by the vagina.