Question:

Have you ever heard someone say, "It's a blessing to have a child." I have friend of mine who is pregnant. She and her boyfriend say, "God has blessed us with a child," but the child was conceived through fornication. I hear people also say, "When God is ready for you to have a child, you have one," but these are the same people whom are not in wedlock. Obviously we know the outcome of having sex, and I don't see a blessing coming from a sinful act. That's like a thief saying he is blessed to have the money he stole. Not talking down on the life being brought into the world, the child is innocent. But I guess my question is: how do you look at this situation?


Answer:

"Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one's youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate" (Psalms 127:3-5).

The fact that people can have children is a blessing. Yes, how these people created a child is wrong. It may end up harming the child because his parents' relationship is unstable. However, if more people saw children as a blessing and not as an inconvenience or evidence of their sin, perhaps abortion would not be the problem it is today.

What we forget at times is that God doesn't restrict His benefits to just the righteous. "But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust" (Matthew 5:44-45). How God treats people is an example of why we should be kind to the wicked. Fornication is wrong, but God doesn't withhold blessings simply because people treat Him badly.