Question:

Hello sir,

I'm a lady of 27 years, who has kept her moral standard until I met my boyfriend. During the course of this relationship I have lost a lot of my virtues including virginity. I have been trying to retrace my steps, but it has being difficult. We both claim to share same belief about premarital sex being a sin but self control has been the problem. I found out he has being cheating on me recently, and I just keep wondering if I should continue in this relationship because of the sexual sins involved and the unfaithfulness.

I need help on getting him to understand the importance of purity and faithfulness.

Thank you.


Answer:

"Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God" (I Corinthians 6:9-10).

Clearly the two of you don't have the same standards regarding sex outside of marriage. He has been pushing you into sex and he has been having sex with other women. It may be a problem of self-control on your part to decline his advances, but I would guess that he is just not inclined to avoid fornication.

Understand that he is showing you the type of man he is. If you get married, he is very likely to be committing adultery at some point.

While it is good to desire to get someone out of sin, you need to recognize that he is dragging you down into sin. When it comes to picking a husband, you need to see him for who he is today and not who he might become. You can't make someone change, you can only encourage him.