Question:

My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years. He waited six months before we had sex. It was my decision, and I regret it to to this day. I wish I knew back then what I know now. I'm afraid if I stop having sex with my boyfriend, he'll leave me, and I've already invested so much into this relationship. I'm a part of his family already, his mother takes me has her own.

I recently watched a few Christian movies that inspired me to worship God whole heartedly. I'm only listening to Gospel songs nowadays, since the songs of this world has no meaning to me anymore. I've become hungry to learn more about Jesus. I want to be one of God's disciples but I feel like my boyfriend is holding me back. But I want to move forward with him, through God. I just know God planned something great for our future together. I don't want to miss out on His blessings. My boyfriend is a good guy, he is honest, loving, and caring. He is a good father (his kids from a previous relationship). But he is also the silent type. We share the same faith and everything, but my problem is that he doesn't talk about God, he doesnt acknowledge God (that's what I think). I know I can't change him but I'd like him to shout God's praises (if that even makes sense). I want him to be a man of God. I want our future kids to look up to us one day. I want to set an example. Maybe he feels that if he start worshiping God wholeheartedly then he won't have so much fun has he does right now. I don't know. I really love him. He gives to the poor, he will even give his last, and I can't see myself with anyone else. But what can I do? Do I just sit back and fight this battle with prayer?

Thank you in advance


Answer:

This isn't about your boyfriend, this is about you. You chose to have sex with a man who has repeatedly committed fornication. Both of you call yourselves Christians without submitting to Christ. "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God" (I Corinthians 6:9-10).

Why the simple solution isn't even considered is something I can't fathom. Go and get married if this is the man you want to live with for the rest of your life. If you aren't sure, then why are you having sex with him? If you won't marry him, then move out.

Being a Christian is about losing yourself in Christ. "I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me" (Galatians 2:20). It isn't about what I want or what makes me happy. It is all about doing the will of my Lord. "But why do you call Me 'Lord, Lord,' and do not do the things which I say?" (Luke 6:46). It isn't a hardship because the requirements of the Lord makes life easier and joyful.

Good Day Mr Hamilton,

Thank you for the wise advice. I will take the necessary steps to grow closer to my God, even if I have to lose my boyfriend.

Kind Regards