Question:

Hello,

I am a follower and believer of Christ for almost four years now. I don't know what to do with my husband. He is doing drugs. We are living with my in-laws in a living room. We are struggling money wise, but thank God my husband got a raise. He is a hard working man. But his addiction is too much. He smokes incense with his sister in her room. He spends the whole day asleep or with her. I don't know what to do. He doesnt have time for us, the children or me. For now I left to live with my parents because his home just smells like drugs. I love him and want to be with him. But I just don't want to live like this. He has anger issues as well. He is always hitting my one year old all the time. I will say it is due to being bipolar. Please help!


Answer:

The only way to deal with a drug addict is to be firm. Move in with your parents. Get a restraining order so that he cannot see his children until he deals with his addiction and anger issues. Tell him that you love him and want to live with him, but you will not accept drugs and child beating. When he gets himself straighten up, then he can come back.

Likely he will blame you for kicking him out. He won't accept that it is his drugs that are causing the problems, or he will say that he will work on the problems while he continues to live with you. The problem is that he will always find a reason to work on his problems tomorrow. You have to focus on his actions and not his words. "You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Therefore by their fruits you will know them" (Matthew 7:16-20).