Question:

I am a single Christian parent, but my partner (a non-Christian) never wants to separate from me. I wanted to get baptized, but he keeps coming back only to stay a few days and goes away for a while for work. During his few days with us I pray for forgiveness. I wanted us to get married so I can get baptized, but he needs to sort out his identification out and it's taken him too long. Is this how the evil one working to hold me back? I have been waiting few months now. What should I do?


Answer:

While you would like to follow the Christian's way of life, the simple fact is that you have not yet entered into the covenant with Christ because you have not been baptized. "For you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus. For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ" (Galatians 3:26-27).

You are unable to be baptized because you have yet to repent of the fornication that you are committing. I know you are blaming him but you are the one that continues to have sex with him without insisting that you get married first. Yes, you are sorry that you sin, but sorrow is not changing what is happening. "For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death. For observe this very thing, that you sorrowed in a godly manner: What diligence it produced in you, what clearing of yourselves, what indignation, what fear, what vehement desire, what zeal, what vindication! In all things you proved yourselves to be clear in this matter" (II Corinthians 7:10-11). Without giving up your sins, you cannot become a Christian (Acts 2:38).

Let him sort out his problems, but doing so without being in your bed. Given that he only visits briefly once in a while, I would not be at all surprised to learn that he has other women in other places. Perhaps I'm too suspicious, but this situation sounds familiar.