Question:

How do I deal with my husband who is on drugs and has a low income job. He says he doesn't have enough money to pay the bills, but he has money to buy drugs, cigarettes and God knows what else. I have four wonderful children. We don't have much money to support our children and live without food stamps and other sources. I try to wait on God for help, but I'm lost in my life with what else to do. I need support. I don't know if you should walk away from marriage like this or what. My husband sometimes is okay sometimes, but I need spiritual guidance. Sometimes I don't like his attitude. I just got to the point I don't really care what he does. Talking to him just runs my blood pressure up. I went through this before, but there are other things now. I'm worried about his using drugs again. So as you, so see I'm lost.


Answer:

However you look at this situation, if your husband is not supporting you and your children, then you will have to get a job to do so. The money that you make needs to be kept where he cannot access it. In a similar vein, while he remains a drug user, supporting him will not encourage him to change for the better. Divorcing your husband will not allow you to marry another person. "Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife" (I Corinthians 7:10-11). Therefore, regardless of how you approach this problem, you will still be needing to support your famiy and yourself.