Question:

I am girl from India. Here 70% of the marriages are arranged by parents from the same caste and community. I am a person who listens what heart says.I am also physical kind of person, means I usually get attracted to smart and cute guys. Nature is also important but my thinking is when you are young, specially for marriage, physical attraction is necessary , especially for me. In India divorces because oftortures from bad husbands ordowry is highly prevalent.I got married 1.5 month before to a guy who is nice by nature but not physically attractive at all but still got married because he has a goodgovernment. in India in our society government job is considered best as compared to private job so despite being not physically attracted I married himbut then I realized I am notable to get physically involved with him.despite giving my 100% try, I am still not attracted to him. In India and especially in our society, a girl after marriage has to spend rest of her life with that person, unless there is some physical or mental torture is involved. I don't know what to do. I am frustrated and confused. I want divorce now. my family members and my friends are consulting me to give some more time but the thing is I am pretty sure after giving time also I won't be able to get physically involved with him.and in our society getting divorceis a big deal. I can handle it but I am worried about my family. I apply for divorce the court will ask me to spend time at least 6 months or so with my husband but I don't want that either. please help me.


Answer:

I'm sorry that you decided to be unhappy with your husband, but the fact remains that you chose to marry him. You had the right to refuse the marriage, but you chose to go through with it. Marriage for life. It is not a way to sample men until you find one who excites you. "Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife" (I Corinthians 7:10-11). By Christ's law you have no right to a divorce, let alone another marriage.

Make your marriage work instead of destroying it.