Question:

I have been on and off with my boyfriend due to the fact that he isn't God fearing. I love him so much and want him to be the one I marry, but I asked God for a God fearing man. My relationship with God has strengthen so much. I realize I can't live or conform to this world by doing ungodly things. He tells me he loves me, but he always wants to have sex with me which I find wrong because we aren't married. I see that he is getting closer to God but he isn't God fearing. I can't change his mind-set but I also can't sit here waiting for him to change. Because of the sex he wants it's giving me doubts. I am praying God because if I don't move on, God won't be able to bless me with the man He has for me who's God fearing. At the same time I don't want to lose him because I love him, and he could be the one if he changes. Any suggestions ? Thanks.


Answer:

You'll have to make up your own mind about whether you want to marry a man who believes in God but not to the level of respecting God's laws. Personally, I think that would be a poor choice for you. He might grow to the point of following the will of God, but that is not guaranteed.

Assuming you are set to marry this man anyway, then your answer to his wanting to have sex is "Not until you prove your love to me by marrying me." Having sex before marriage means he doesn't respect you enough to be your life's companion. Right now he is failing the test. He doesn't sound like a man who would protect you, since he is unwilling even to protect you from himself. "So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh"" (Ephesians 5:28-31).

You are correct that you can't change another person. You can encourage him, but he has to desire to change himself. Since that is not happening, then I would suggest that you move on to find a godly man.

Thank you. I was in denial, knowing that he was not good for me. I did let him go and will not turn back. We have Facebook together do you think I should delete him, just so that way he won't ever be able to contact me when I'm online?

I guess that would depend on whether you think you would compromise on your resolution by talking to him. I can't answer that for you.