Is God preparing me to be a preachers' wife?


I have been in the body of Christ for nearly a decade. Struggling through it all, I have learned to deny my own will and go with God's plans for my life and that has made me successful. I had heard the call that anything I do with my career, I do it for God, my Father.

My spritual maturity has blossomed into far more than what I'd ever imagined it to be. Not too many young adults my age often come to put God first in their lives at an early age. My current minister and elders, and elders from my previously attended congregation, are all praising my efforts regarding my work in the church. I love teaching Sunday School with younger kids and I am working to help the people in Africa.

Reflecting on this has brought me to ask myself: am I being set up through God's will to be married to a preacher?

I didn't spiritually mature until recently, and I have put all my faith and trust in God. Some of the older women at my old congregation are now calling me to vent their problems to me after the congregation went through a tough situation. Or they call encourage me and ask for an update. They recently got a new young minister fresh out of college. I met him before he was accepted as the minister. But he's not married. Now, I am not saying I want to be his wife, but I need clairity in what God is trying to show me. Before I became spiritually secure, I didn't even think of the guy this way but one time I cracked open my Bible and when it talked about husbands and wives, his character just filled my brain. I didn't take it as "he was or he is" right now. But I need some guidance. Please answer this, not what I can do but what I can take note of. Everything I do in the church and out I do it for My heavenly Father. I don't want to start over-thinking and when I try to take it off my brain, I can't. Tell me what's going on?


You are asking as if I know what is currently on God's mind. That is something no one can tell you. "For what man knows the things of a man except the spirit of the man which is in him? Even so no one knows the things of God except the Spirit of God. Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, that we might know the things that have been freely given to us by God" (I Corinthians 2:11-12). God told us what He thinks through His prophets and Apostles. We don't get personalized messages. "God, who at various times and in various ways spoke in time past to the fathers by the prophets, has in these last days spoken to us by His Son, whom He has appointed heir of all things, through whom also He made the worlds" (Hebrews 1:1-2).

I know in my own life that it is only after the fact that I see how events in my past prepared me for things later in my life. I usually head in the direction as I think is best and realize that things will work out as they ought as God "fine tunes" my plans. "A man's heart plans his way, but the LORD directs his steps" (Proverbs 16:9).

The better question is are you interested in being a preacher's wife? It can be daunting role. See The Blessings of Being a Preacher's Wife for one woman's thoughts on the matter. Of course, your interest doesn't guarantee that he will be interested in getting married at this time. But it is better to think about such things before you start down a road that you don't like the destination.