Question:

Hi

I really need urgent help from you. Actually, to tell you the truth, what happened is that my guy wasn't in his senses, and he ended up doing something wrong which he wasn't supposd to do. I don't want to get pregnant or anything. Neither can I go buy any pills from outside. The thing is maybe his sperm has gone inside me. I'm not sure. He did not ejaculate but something like that happened. Can you tell me what foods to eat or something? I will wait for your reply. Thank you.


Answer:

I know you are upset, and it is hard to write clearly when you are so worried. So I'm going to repeat back what I think happened: The two of you have been involved in sexual foreplay, but this time things went further than you wanted. He put his penis in your vagina and while he tried to withdraw before ejaculating, neither of you are sure if some of his semen might not have gotten inside of you.

Yes, what he did was wrong. But unless you are saying he raped you, what you did was also wrong. Neither of you should have have been involved in sexual touching and foreplay. The fact that the natural consequences of what you started came to its expected ending should not have been a surprise. "Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be seared? So is he who goes in to his neighbor's wife; whoever touches her shall not be innocent" (Proverbs 6:27-29).

If you engage in sexual acts, the chance of pregnancy always exists. From the moment his penis touched your vagina, there was possibility that you could get pregnant. Men drip pre-ejaculate (sometimes called pre-cum) fluid when they are strongly sexually aroused. That fluid can contain sperm. It isn't much, but conception only requires one sperm to reach your egg. Once he entered you, that fluid was then present even back near your uterus, just making the trip for any sperm shorter. Since you are uncertain whether any semen was actually ejaculated, I'll have to assume that some might have been left in your vagina. Semen contains a high quantity of sperm, raising the odds that one will reach your egg.

It only takes 20 minutes for sperm to swim through the uterus to reach an egg if it is present. I don't know where you are in your monthly cycle, but women release an egg two weeks before the start of their next blood flow. In addition, a man's sperm can survive up to six days in a woman, so if you anywhere from 14 to 20 days from the start of your next blood flow, the chance of becoming pregnant is fairly high.

You cannot wash out his sperm. Even attempting to do so will just push the sperm further back. And since it doesn't take long for sperm to swim into the uterus, it can't be reached anyway.

The time to prevent conception is before you even start. If you didn't want to get pregnant, you should not have been fooling around with sex. Now that it has happened, there isn't anything that you can do without killing the child conceived. The pills offered only force a very early abortion, which is killing the child conceived.

The only thing you can do is wait to see if your next blood flow starts. If it does, then conception didn't take place. If your blood flow does not happen, then wait two weeks past when it should have started and take a pregnancy test. If it doesn't show anything, wait another two weeks and take a second one to make sure.

Meanwhile, you two need to stop the sinning and get serious about living like Christians, however this turns out.

Actually, I know you're right, but I really confused. We promised each other we wouldn't fool around with such. I'm not sure whether it reached the egg. It's just that two days have passed, and I'm really scared. Isn't there any way I could stop it?

One of the problems with sin is that it often takes you further than you want to go. As I mentioned before, the time to stop a conception is before sex. After sex there is no known method to stop conception. What is typically offered is an abortive, which kills any child who might have been conceived. Since that is a form of murder, you cannot fix a sin with another sin (Romans 3:8).

I'm sorry you have to face this fear for the next several weeks, but it is a part of the risk you took when you decided to get involved in sex. I hope no child was conceived because that would be very hard on the child. If a child was conceived, let me know and we can talk about the best way to handle that situation, but such a conversation is too early and might not be necessary.