Question:

Please help me out. I am in a relationship with the girl I want to marry. I have had sex with her. We are deeply in love with each other. We also had many abortions. Can I still marry her? I have a calling of God in my life. If I marry her will this affect my calling? I need your advice. We are in the midst of planing our wedding.


Answer:

I'm puzzled how a person involved in so many sins can in almost the same breath state they have a calling from God. Why are you concluding that by eliminating some of your sins that it would jeopardize your calling of God? "What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it?" (Romans 6:1-2). If you wish to serve God, your first obligation is to become obedient to God.

The sex with this woman must stop immediately until after you are married. Both of you then need to make several major changes in your life. You have been living for your own convenience. You've kill a number of your own children for that convenience. It sounds to me as if you two claimed to be Christians, but you've done little to actually be Christians. I would like you to read What Must I Do to be Saved? In the areas you find yourselves lacking, make changes. Resolve that while you live in this world you will no longer live like the rest of the world.