I am a 20 year old boy. I don't have anygirlfriend and I want to find a nice girl,say between 18 and 45 years of age, from the United States of America or another American country. So what should I do to find her?


Let me first warn you, there are a number of young men in the same situation as you. Your desire for a future wife in another country is both hard to accomplish and leaves you vulnerable to scams. There are a number of people who are eager to take your money and make you promises they will never fulfill.

The purpose of having a girlfriend is to find someone who will be your companion and friend for the rest of your life. This means you need to met people to get to know them and they to get to know you. That is hard when you are in one country and they are in another country. It can be extra hard if you have trouble conversing in each other's languages. While the Internet makes it very easy to talk to people all around the world, the Internet makes it far too easy to pretend. A lot of people are not who they claim to be and since you can't see them, you can't tell when someone is lying to you.

The best way to meet someone is to go places where you have interests because other people with the same interests will go to those same places. If you want to met Americans and can afford to go to one of the American countries for visits, then find out where visitors come to see your country. If you can, get a job that puts you in contact with people visiting, such as a tour guide. Such jobs will also force you to improve your language skills.

Whether you find a girl locally or elsewhere, you need to also consider what you offer the relationship. Do you have a good job that allows you to support a family? Do you prove to be a hard worker? Do people know you to be honest and caring? In other words, think about yourself from a woman's viewpoint and ask yourself what you can do to make yourself a better man whom a woman would want to marry. If you have no ideas, ask your mother or some other women you know for suggestions on how to improve yourself to be good husband material.

In your eagerness, never rush a relationship. Get to know the other person well and let that person get to know you well. It is when you rush that you make mistakes.

Finally, be yourself. Too many young men, in their eagerness to find a wife, pretend to be someone they are not. It makes them look artificial and unattractive. But even if you do find a woman who falls in love for whom you pretend to be, what happens when she finds out the truth? I know you want to impress a woman, but impress her with your actual good qualities.