Question:

I have a quick and silly question, but I want to be safe. I'm not a virgin but the girl I'm seeing is. I've had sexual intercourse with two other girls who are clean. Now my question is, if I'm having anal intercourse with my girlfriend at the moment, is it necessary to use a condom to prevent getting an STD? Or is it not possible, since STDs are spread only if that particular person has them.

Can you get an STD from anal sex without using a condom?


Answer:

I'm glad you are somewhat concerned about the physical consequences of fornication (sex that takes place outside of marriage), but I fear that you are completely ignoring the spiritual consequences as you plan your sin.

Let's start with your basic question: can you catch an STD from anal sex with a virgin? First, you are assuming she actually is a virgin. Some claim to be a virgin, knowing that this makes them more attractive in a man's eyes. Others claim to be a virgin because vaginal intercourse had not taken place even though they had participated in oral sex, anal sex, or mutual masturbation. But these are still forms of sex which can spread STD's. Thus it is possible for a woman who has an intact hymen to still have an STD.

Sexually Transmitted Diseases are just a class of diseases that don't readily spread except in sexual situations. But these are not the only diseases in the world and other diseases can be spread during sex (as well as through other means). Anal sex is very prone to spreading disease. Would you consider spreading feces on your genitals? Then why would a man consider putting his penis in the part of the body where feces come from? The colon of a person contains a large number of bacteria. The skin on your penis is very thin and your blood vessels are just below the surface. A bacteria doesn't have to travel far to enter your blood stream.

In addition, the rectum is not designed to accommodate an object as large in circumference as an erect penis. Forcing the penis in through the rectum can cause damage to the muscles in this area. Movement of the penis can cause small tears in the large intestine. Not only does this expose you to the blood of the person being victimized by you, but it also exposes the victim's blood stream to an environment filled with diseases.

Anal sex is just a perverted form of sexual intercourse that men engage in to avoid getting a woman pregnant. It is much more risky in spreading disease, but what you are ignoring is that it is still sinful. "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God" (I Corinthians 6:9-10).

On top of this, you call this woman your girlfriend, but you are planning to lead her into sin, expose her to disease, and possibly injure her all so that you can get a few moments of sexual gratification. And it is a form of sex where you will experience the gratification and she will not get much of her own. This is not friendship, let alone love, this is a selfish male using a woman as an object to relieve his sexual urges. You're a human being, but you want to act like a dog. "But these, like natural brute beasts made to be caught and destroyed, speak evil of the things they do not understand, and will utterly perish in their own corruption" (II Peter 2:12).

"Were they ashamed when they had committed abomination? No! They were not at all ashamed; nor did they know how to blush. Therefore they shall fall among those who fall; at the time I punish them, they shall be cast down," says the LORD" (Jeremiah 6:15).

Thanks for your opinion. What you said was very powerful and deep. I'm a Muslim and I should've known that it was a sin. I guess I'm being selfish and trying to gain those few minutes of sexual gratification. I wish I had more postive influences around me. I hope you can accept my letters and I hope I can come to you with any problem and you could help me with open arms.

It takes the courage of a man to admit he is wrong, and I'm glad you were persuaded out of sinning against God and this woman. You are welcome to talk with me about any problem you are facing. My answers will be Bible based because that is my duty as a preacher. "If anyone speaks, let him speak as the oracles of God. If anyone ministers, let him do it as with the ability which God supplies, that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom belong the glory and the dominion forever and ever. Amen" (I Peter 4:11). If you are comfortable with that, we can have long and friendly talks.

I don't know your age or how close you are to marriage, but God has given us a beautiful gift of sex that is to be enjoyed between a husband and his wife. Don't destroy that gift by misusing it.

"My son, pay attention to my wisdom; lend your ear to my understanding, that you may preserve discretion, and your lips may keep knowledge. For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death, her steps lay hold of hell. Lest you ponder her path of life - her ways are unstable; you do not know them. Therefore hear me now, my children, and do not depart from the words of my mouth.

"Remove your way far from her, and do not go near the door of her house, lest you give your honor to others, and your years to the cruel one; lest aliens be filled with your wealth, and your labors go to the house of a foreigner; and you mourn at last, when your flesh and your body are consumed, and say: "How I have hated instruction, and my heart despised correction! I have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined my ear to those who instructed me! I was on the verge of total ruin, in the midst of the assembly and congregation."

"Drink water from your own cistern, and running water from your own well. Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let them be only your own, and not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love. For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, and be embraced in the arms of a seductress?

"For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and He ponders all his paths. His own iniquities entrap the wicked man, and he is caught in the cords of his sin. He shall die for lack of instruction, and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray" (Proverbs 5:1-23).