I have just been awarded custody of my 3 sons as my wife has now moved abroad with another man.  My wife and I have been seperated for years and she never taught the lads any discipline at all.  Now they are out of control which is a great worry.  Should I spank the boys?  They are ages 16, 14 and 11.  And what method should I use as I have never spanked before.  I hope you can advise me.  Especially should I chastise my two eldest sons and if so in what manner?  Because I suspect they might protest they are too old for spanking at 16 & 14.   Specifically,  if you think I should chastise them should I spank them with my hand or use an impliment, a rod/cane and/or strap and should I take their trousers and pants down to bare them for punishment.  And what do I do if the boys refuse to co-operate if I award them a spanking even though they know they deserve one ? 

Though you have been separated from your wife for years, I'm left to wonder why you haven't been involved in the raising of your boys and why the courts would award you custody now after years of being uninvolved. Nor in these days of liberal courts would a woman lose custody of her children simply because she moved to another country. Instead of wanting to talk about how to best raise the boys, you are focused on wanting to discuss methods of spanking in extreme detail. Then there is the fact that you signed your note as being from England, but your email account shows you to be from Greece. Well did Jesus say, "You are of your father the devil, and the desires of your father you want to do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own resources, for he is a liar and the father of it" (John 8:44).

It appears you are a sick man who gets pleasure from the thoughts of dominating others. The best advice I can give you is the one Jesus stated to the Jews, "unless you repent you will all likewise perish" (Luke 13:3).

See also:

Questions and Answers regarding Lying
Questions and Answers regarding Child Rearing and Parenting
Questions and Answers regarding Spanking