I had sex with my boyfriend for about maybe the sixth or seventh time. We used a condom, and when he went to take the condom off some of the sperm was at the bottom; it leaked out during sex (only a very small amount). Could I still get pregnant? What are the chances? Please help me out!

Let me see, you and your boyfriend played with fire and just now are concerned about the possibility of getting burned? "Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be seared? So is he who goes in to his neighbor's wife; whoever touches her shall not be innocent" (Proverbs 6:27-29).

Condoms are not a fool proof method of preventing pregnancy. In a year's time 20 out of 100 couples using condoms will find themselves conceiving a child. See Contraceptives for additional information. Condoms can fail, as you have suddenly learned. The current standard allows up to 7% of condoms manufactured to have leaks. Condoms can also come off during sex and they sometimes spill afterwards. While a man ejaculates about 500,000,000 sperm, it only takes one sperm reaching a woman's egg to cause pregnancy. The releasing of such a large number of sperm increases the odds, but the possibility, though remote, exists with just one sperm.

While condoms decrease the odds for some sexually transmitted diseases, they do not prevent all of them. Because of the possibility of failure, disease causing organisms, as well as sperm, can be transmitted.

There are strong reasons why God said that sex should only take place between married couples. A monogamous relationship means the spread of sexual diseases would disappear. Even if a couple was attempting to delay having a child, at least they would be in position to raise a child even if an accident happened. You and your boyfriend are not in this position.

Since he is willing to have sex with you without any commitment, how do you know he hasn't had sex with other women? How do you know that he isn't carrying some disease? But more than that, if you find yourself pregnant, what makes you think he will stick around? He has already demonstrated his willingness to go against God to satisfy his sexual appetite. Even if you married, would you trust him to remain faithful to you in the years ahead? See the article "Why Sex Outside of Marriage is Wrong."

What you and your boyfriend have done is committed the sin of fornication, that is having sex outside of marriage. If you die in this current state, you will not reach heaven. "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God" (I Corinthians 6:9-10). It is a fixable problem, but only fixable if you leave your sin behind and commit your life to God. "I tell you, no; but unless you repent you will all likewise perish" (Luke 13:3). Repent means you have to change. You have to leave your sins behind. And you need to enter into a covenant relationship with God. "Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit" (Acts 2:38). This is what the Corinthians did. Right after warning them that sins like fornication will keep people out of heaven, Paul stated, "And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God" (I Corinthians 6:11).

Still, turning away from your sin won't erase the mistakes you have made in your past. You might have picked up a disease. You need to see a doctor and be checked. You might have conceived a child. If so, you have some tough decisions to make. Can you raise the baby? Or should you find the child a home? What is not an option is to kill the child after the fact to cover up your sin. Committing murder on top of fornication doesn't excuse either sin. See the article "To Chose or Not to Chose." Whether you meant so or not, you choose to accept the risk of bringing an innocent child into this world when you let your boyfriend into bed. The choice is not erasable, it is history. The choice you now face is the direction you will go to improve your life, and the possible life of an innocent child.

See also:

Questions and Answers regarding Sexual Relations
Questions and Answers regarding Fornication
Questions and Answers regarding Abortion