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Hey, I was wondering: I had sex with my girlfriend tonight, and I was wearing a condom, and I cummed, and then pulled out right away, while my penis was still firm, and then it went limp and I took off the condom. I looked at the condom, and all my cum was inside of it, and there was some cum on the outside of it, but it didn't look like mine. What was it? And is it possible for my girlfriend to get pregnant?


Let's put this back into perspective. Last night you were sinning with your girlfriend by enjoying the passing pleasure of fornication with her. You don't want to face the responsibility of what you are doing, so you used a condom in an attempt avoid conceiving a child and, with some luck, avoid catching a sexually transmitted disease from your girlfriend.

You are living solely for the moment. It doesn't matter to you whether your actions are morally right or wrong because all you are thinking about is how much fun it is to ejaculate. "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge" (Hebrews 13:4). Fornication will keep you out of heaven if you don't turn away from this sin. "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God" (I Corinthians 6:9-10). The strange thing is that you sent your question to a preacher, you must have known I would get on your case about it, so there must be some hope that you will listen. I would like you read an article, "Why Sex Outside of Marriage is Wrong," and tell me what you think about it in your particular situation.

In regards to your question, there was a possibility of getting your girlfriend pregnant from the time you stuck your penis into her. All putting a condom on does is decrease the odds; it doesn't eliminate the possibility. For a married couple trying to conceive a child, there is an 85% probability that conception will take place in year's time of having sex. It might happen on the very first attempt, or it might not happen for a few years, but on average 85% of all couples trying to have a child will manage to conceive one during a years worth of trying. Using a condom decreases the chance to 20% in one year. Condoms fail for a variety of reasons:

  • A condom might break. Governmental rules require that no more than 7% of all condoms fail. Most of the time manufactures keep the reported failure rate under that number, but there have been cases where it has gone above. I have in my files a case where a batch sold in Arkansas exceeded 10%. Of course, once it fails it is too late.
  • Condoms sometimes roll up during intercourse.
  • Condoms sometimes slip off.
  • Sometimes there is a spillage.
  • Sometimes a bit of semen ends up on a finger and accidentally placed near the vagina.
  • Sometimes a person intends to use a condom, but because of the excitement of the moment decides to skip it this one time.

Sex belongs to married couples because they have an established family willing to bear the responsibility of raising a child. What is going to happen if your girlfriend if she finds herself pregnant? What is the reality, not your fantasy. Is your girlfriend going to kill the baby by having an abortion? Who will be raising the child if he is born? What will be your child support payments for the next eighteen years? Who is paying the hospital bills? If you decide to marry this woman, are you going to hold it against each other that you were "forced" into the marriage?

You probably call it "love," but the reality is pure selfishness. You are doing it because of what you are getting out of it -- the temporary moments of ecstasy. Can you really say your doing it because it is in the best interest of your girlfriend? "Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen" (Romans 1:24-25). "Worshiped and served the creature" means your main thought is to satisfy your body's desire for sex. You are treating sex as no more honorable than a dog or similar animal.

It is possible that the condom you used had a pinhole leak that allowed some semen to pass through during ejaculation. However, since you believe it didn't look the same, it is more likely that your girlfriend has a vaginal infection. Some, such as the common yeast infection, thickens vaginal secretions. A yeast infection is the mildest and most common cause, but there are other infections that can have more serious consequences. She ought to see her gynecologist just in case.

So, since it is possible that she is carrying at least one infection, have you considered that you may not the only one having sex with your girlfriend? After all, if she is letting you put your penis is just for the "fun" of it, why should she stop with one guy? The two of you don't have any commitment toward each other. You've made no vows. For that matter, she is probably not your first either.

Isn't about time you two grew up and become responsible human beings?


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Questions and Answers regarding Sexual Relations
Questions and Answers regarding Fornication