Controlling Our Emotions

Text: Mark 7:18-23


I.         From the heart comes the emotions which affect all aspects of our life - Proverbs 4:23

            A.        We can poison the well with evil thoughts - Mark 7:20-23

            B.        We can sweeten it with righteous ideals - Philippians 4:4-9

            C.        It affects our outlook on life - Proverbs 15:13

            D.        Our emotions have to be controlled, else they will control our lives

                        1.         Control gives us added strength - Proverbs 16:32

            E.        Trust that God can teach us how - Proverbs 3:5-8

II.        When emotions are out of control

            A.        You are left vulnerable to attack by others - Proverbs 25:28

            B.        It can misguide us - Proverbs 28:26

                        1.         That is why everything isn’t as it may appear - Proverbs 14:12

                        2.         It twists us up, even to the point of leading us away from God - Proverbs 19:3

                        3.         A classic example are the Jews - Acts 13:45-46

                                    a.         Their emotional response lead them away from the truth

            C.        It is foolish to vent your feelings - Proverbs 29:11

III.       Dangerous emotions

            A.        Anger - “a fiery resentment over mistreatment, whether real, exaggerated, or imagined”

                        1.         The problem

                                    a.         It doesn’t lead to righteousness - James 1:19-20

                                    b.         A fool exercises no control over his anger - Proverbs 12:16

                                    c.         You end up making dumb mistakes - Proverbs 14:29

                                    d.         It leads to fights - Proverbs 30:33

                                                (1)       There is no control over what is said

                                                (2)       Soon there is no control over what is done

                                    e.         It gets us into trouble, repeatedly - Proverbs 19:19

                        2.         The solution

                                    a.         Stay away from angry people. It is a learned trait - Proverbs 22:24-25

                                    b.         Distinguish between important matters and small annoyances - Proverbs 19:11

                                    c.         Slow down your response and look for solutions to the problem - Proverbs 15:18

            B.        Envy - “displeasure at another’s good fortune, thinking it should belong to you and not them”

                        1.         The problem

                                    a.         It destroys the person from the inside - Proverbs 14:30

                                    b.         It causes harm to others - Galatians 5:15

                                    c.         It promotes evil - James 3:14-16

                                    d.         The classic example: Cain - I John 3:12

                        2.         The solution

                                    a.         Focus on serving God - Proverbs 23:17-18

                                    b.         If someone, because of their evil, doesn’t deserve something know that God will handle the problem - Psalms 37:1-3

                                    c.         Esteem others above yourself - Philippians 2:3-4

            C.        Arrogance - “an inflated feeling of self-importance”

                        1.         The problem

                                    a.         You don’t listen to others and you get conflicts - Proverbs 13:10

                                    b.         It is destructive - Proverbs 16:18

                                    c.         It is sinful - Proverbs 21:4

                        2.         The solution

                                    a.         Humility - Proverbs 18:12

                                    b.         The humble learn - Proverbs 11:2

                                    c.         When we see ourselves as God does, we lose our pride - Romans 12:3

            D.        Impulsiveness - “rashness, recklessness, acting without advance thought”

                        1.         The problem

                                    a.         Without thought we lose what we have - Proverbs 21:5

                                    b.         We say things we later regret - Proverbs 29:20

                                    c.         It can be destructive - Proverbs 13:3

                        2.         The solution

                                    a.         Think about where you are going - Proverbs 4:26, Proverbs 14:15

                                    b.         Understand what you are doing - Proverbs 14:8

                                    c.         Look where it leads - Proverbs 22:3

                                    d.         Guard your thoughts and words - Proverbs 21:23

                                    e.         Think before you speak - Proverbs 15:28

            E.        Anxiety - “uneasiness caused by fear of misfortune”

                        1.         The problem

                                    a.         Causes depression - Proverbs 12:25

                                    b.         It destroys health - Proverbs 17:22; 18:14

                        2.         The solution

                                    a.         Choose to be happy - Proverbs 15:15

                                    b.         Cultivate pleasant friends who give good advice - Proverbs 16:24; 27:9

                                    c.         Trust in God - Proverbs 16:20; 29:25

                                    d.         Hope in God - Psalms 42:11

IV.      The solution to uncontrolled emotions

            A.        Respect God - Proverbs 14:26-27; 19:23

            B.        Listen to correction - Proverbs 17:10

            C.        Cultivate godly wisdom - Proverbs 3:1-26

Based on a lesson by Frank Walton