Being a Conversationalist
Text: Romans 12:10-18
I. A young lady wrote and ask, how can you be a good conversationalist? I’m so boring. I don’t know how to strike up an interesting conversation.
A. It is a good question because talking to people is something we just take for granted.
II. Start by listening – really listening
A. The biggest mistake people make is thinking they have to say interesting things to have a good conversation.
B. James 1:19-20 - Swift to hear and slow to speak
C. In a conversation, only one person can speak at a time - Ecclesiastes 3:7
D. Allowing the other person to speak shows respect for the person - Romans 12:10
E. But so few people really listen. Most only hear what they want to hear.
1. Example is the disciples - Mark 9:31-32
2. Jesus’ words were clear, but the disciples couldn’t comprehend because it wasn’t what they expected or wanted
F. Some only listen so long as like what is being said - Acts 22:21-22
III. Your attitude matters
A. Be cheerful
1. Who enjoys talking to someone whose outlook on life is gloomy?
2. Proverbs 17:22 - Cheerfulness does a person good.
3. People will want to talk longer
B. Be encouraging
1. Help people feel better - Proverbs 12:25
2. Stir up love and good works - Hebrews 10:24
3. Be kind and tenderhearted - Ephesians 4:32
C. Be interested
1. Weep and rejoice with others - Romans 12:15
2. Esteem others as better - Philippians 2:3-4
3. Share burdens - Galatians 6:2
IV. Consider your words
A. Don’t say everything that comes to mind
1. Words can be a snare - Proverbs 18:7
2. Spare your words and will appear wiser - Proverbs 17:27-28
B. Be choosy about your words - Colossians 4:6
1. The wise man’s words are gracious - Ecclesiastes 10:12
2. Benefits from well chosen words - Proverbs 16:21-24
3. Words that benefit the hearer - Ephesians 4:29
C. Say things that help others - Proverbs 10:21; 15:7
D. Be careful of other people’s feelings
1. Don’t spread a person’s faults - Proverbs 17:9
2. Keep disagreements private - Proverbs 25:9
V. Controlling the tongue is hard - James 3:2
A. Yet we must try